Wednesday, January 18, 2006

Silly Annoying questions and how to face them

EDUCATION
When in Highschool
"What course will you take in college?" Irritation level: 2.5 noisy cats
I guess being in highschool and being young allow us to welcome this question and to answer it with passion. It will even help you create a "mature" image to the adult's eyes. If the person asking you is someone who is not that important to your life then just come out of something to get rid of that question and if the one who asked isn't satisfied then leave the battle. Who cares about what the person says.

When in College
What's your goal five years from now? Irritation level: 2 silly cats

Again, being asked about your plans and being able to answer it creates a positive image about you as a growing up individual. So, shoot. Tell them how you see yourself in the future and get them bored to make sure they won't ask that anymore next time you see each other.

Love life
1. Being a single

"Do you have a girlfriend? Irritation level: Irritation level 3.5 singing cats to 4.5 cats having sex (depends how long you stay in this stage)

Unless, poeple will see you being with someone constantly, this question will be part of your daily life. I guess this question can ruin your days especially if there are some issues in your life and if you always find yourself dreaming having a partner beside you. Then someone will just pop that bubble and make you feel helpless with this question. C'mmon... give the single people a break. If the partner is not yet there then it is not there. Having a lifetime partner is not something that you can just buy in your favorite grocery store. AGAIN..IT IS NOT EASY AND THERE IS NOTHING WRONG IN BEING SINGLE... so bump off. shoo shoo.. get away! How to handle this? First, I think you must be secured in being single and at the same time enjoying it and the rest of the technique will follow. You may also observe who frequently ask you this one and prepare a witty question/reply to him/her.

If yes, you have a partner the question will be
"When are you going to get married?" Irritation level: 4 chasing cats

What da?!!@$#*&. Another one, I personally endured this for so many years. As if getting married is so simple. If you are not yet married then you will know this once you are there. Iactually experienced the two phases of this stage

One.
If you are less than 25 yrs old people will to give their best to justify why you shouldn't get married yet. Scary world, Im telling you. Sometimes I wonder if they are happy in their married life. I mean don't kid me, some of them got married at a young age and from their stories I can sense some frustrations, missed opportunities. But, but but is getting married really sucks? Im sure is not. People are just overly concerned. If youare still studying then it is not the best time to get married but I guess having a job is already a passport.

Two.
Then if you are above 25 and has a partner
When are you going to get married? 10x a day! Irritation level: 10,000,000 cats having a conference at 2am and just beside your bedroom.

If you are the man, you will be super nervous about the idea of getting marrried. Not because you are not sure of the person you are tying the knot with but because of all the major responsibilities packaged in the marriage contract. Also, because of the preparation and the financial aspect of Will she accept the proposal? Am I ready? Do I have enough money to shoulder the wedding? and so on and so forth. Just imagine what's going on inside one's mind and be asked about marriage every single day!!! Whew!! I survived that and even if I already know the answer I deprived everybody of this important information at first until I proposed to my wife. She should be the first to know, right? My standard answer whenever asked varies from "It will come soon", "As soon as I see you walking the aisle, I will follow soon", I'm still saving.. etc etc

For the woman, I think they feel worse than we do. Why? Usually (or does it ever happen?), they are not the first one who makes the move? They are just there in waiting game. As time passes by, it will sometimes makes her wonder if she will ever walk the aisle. People, let's be careful in asking women about this sensitive issue. It hurts sometimes. How to avoid these people? Stay with your good friends who will defend you!

Children

As soon as you exchange I dos.
Is your wife pregant already? Any baby coming? blah blah blah... Iritation level: 10,000,000 cats scratching a blackboard.

No problem for the first few weeks but if it comes like pebbles in the air.Whoa, it will surely test your patience and kindness to humanity. I mean I would understand perfectly if it comes from close friends and most especially from parents and grandparents. But from all walks of life? From time to time, it is still normal but when it becomes the topic of all encounters then it surely becomes an epidemic of sort. Please wait. We will not hide it from anyone. We can't even hide, kids! But people do not realize how it impact us. We get pressured, paranoid etc., I don't think these are the fruits that we should be receiving. Forgive them Father for they don't just when not to ask.


I will stop here and wait until I exprience having a baby. Im sure the next question will be..."when are you planning to have another one..again. blah blah blah'''

Weight

When you are below your ideal weight.
People will always and always let you know (as if you do know) that you are getting thin.

When you are a little bit above your ideal weight.
Sometimes, it is better to be obviously fat because people won't mention that you are getting fat. BUT, if you just gain some pounds and boardering to being fat, I am telling you people will relentlessly remind you every single day that you are getting fat. AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHH.... it is so damn irritating and cruel. But once you lose those pounds, you will no hear a single word. What's wrong here people?? What are we trying to do to each other? blah blah blah the concern.. it is unsolicited. For example, if a woman has a bad hair day, im pretty sure she is aware of it but to hear a million times will drive her nuts. Hair is minor because you can fix it but being slightly overweight will take sometimes then to hear every damn day is so crazy.


I'M SURE PEOPLE/FRIENDS ASK THESE NOT TO IRRITATE ANYONE OR INTEND TO DISRUPT THE NATURAL SEQUENCE OF LIFE. WE ALL JUST WANT TO SHOW OUR CONCERN AND INTEREST TO ANYONE. THOUGH, THROUGH THIS I BECAME MORESENSITIVE TO OTHERS SO I DON'T JUST ASK THEM UNLESS THE OTHER PERSON IS READY TO BE ASKED. HOW? JUST LISTEN AND TIMING IS EVERYTHING. IF THE PERSON IS GETTING FAT, HE/SHE KNOWS IT SO USE THE RIGHT WORD AND SAY IT CONSIDERING THE PERSON'S FEELING.

2 comments:

Pia said...

marvin, ang puso mo... hehehe. =) i agree though - the annoying questions NEVER stop.. there's always something people absolutely have to ask, lalo na yata pag pinoy! LOL.

tin-tin said...

kuya marvin, are you okay? sino nang-away sayo?! easy lang! hehe.

but i can relate. especially with people asking me why don't i have a boyfriend. please!!! if i know, then maybe i'll already have a boyfriend. and with the weight thing, aaargh!!!

another question, "bakit di ka pa umaalis sa gobyerno?" kilala mo ata ito kuya marvin. hehe :)

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